So I had my 32 week OB check this morning. I was kind of excited because 32 weeks is an important milestone when pregnancy, especially when you are a high risk like me. It means that the lungs are close to being developed, and if she were to be born then she would stand a %90 chance of survival with help of course.
So back to what I was starting to say. My appointment was at 11:30 am, so I arrived at about 11:15 am and I didn’t get back in a room until about 12:15. That was fine I had no kids I was just sitting there being bored, no biggie. Finally I was called back for my appointment, and was informed that it would be another 15-30 min until I was able to see the doctor. Great , more time to be bored oh well I had a magazine to keep me company.
20 min later the Dr. emerged from where ever he was. So he did the usual checking the heart beat, measuring my stomach, etc. He asked me how I had been feeling and I was explaining that I was in the Triage last night because I was throwing up blood in addition to the 102 fever that I had. Well it was discovered that I have a kidney infection and that is what was causing the fever etc. So I was explaining what happened last night and telling him that my hips hurt so bad that I can barely walk. In explaining what was going on I was trying to find out what I should be doing at home to help relieve some of these issues. So he turns to me and says ” If you can’t hack it being pregnant then you should get sterilized. ” meaning get my tubes tied. (Well I am planing on getting them tied anyways because this is my 9th pregnancy and I obviously don’t have 9 kids. I just can’t take the heart ache anymore.) I couldn’t believe that he would say that to me. No doctor has the right to tell you that you should be sterilized. I don’t care what his reasoning was or if that was his personal opinion, it just wasn’t right. I chose not to freak out and just let it go until the end of my appointment but the problem was that my appointment wasn’t over.
I asked him if he was going to check my cervix to see if I was dilating any further, and he said “No.” What, what do you mean No? I asked him what his reasoning was for not doing it. (Mind you I had a small attitude because I was still mad about the sterilization comment) His reason was that since I was in triage last night and they didn’t feel the need to check it then he didn’t think that it was necessary. I tried to explain that I was not in there for the baby, I was in for my infection and just because her heart rate was good does not mean that I am not dilating. That and the triage Dr. told me that since I had an appointment this morning that she would leave all of that to him.
I also chose not to fight with him about this because I will be back to see another Dr on the 13th. I did however make a point to inform administration that I will NOT be seeing him again, and file a formal complaint. Not so much about the checking for dilation but the sterilization comments. It was really hurtful, who cares if I have pain etc and high risk pregnancies, that does not mean that I don’t deserve to be a mother.
I know that I am kind of harping on the subject but my feelings are really hurt, and I now do not feel as though I can ask him anything and get an objective answer about anything knowing that is how he feels.
Thanks for listening, and have a good one, talk to you all tomorrow.
