Sick kids suck!

Ugh,

Where to begin, I have a sick little one today. She began to cough yesterday morning and it didn’t seem like much but as the day progressed it got worse. It always gets worse doesn’t it? I mean come on. This poor little girl just got over having a pretty bad stint with Strep-Throat.

She missed school yesterday because she had a feverbug and was coughing. (I won’t send my kids to school with a fever because I am just not an asshole like that. I know plenty of parents that will send sick kids to school and it pisses me off because when my kids get sick they get REALLY sick. Ass-hat parents SMH ) By last night around 9 PM she was coughing so bad it sounded like croup. She was soooo miserable, (we were too) that my awesome hubs went and got her, put her in our bed and then slept on the couch so that she was able to get some good sleep and I would be there to help her.

My poor middle one has been sick for weeks with adenoid troubles, and her doctor says there is nothing wrong with them…….. UGH Seriously????? They are so swollen that she can hardly eat.

I really wish people would take as much care of their kids and not going out in public when ill, so that kids don’t get sick like this. I think the both got sick originally from an outing when we went grocery shopping.

I understand that people sometimes have to go out when ill, but there seems to be this reoccurring theme that coughing on people in public and going out sick is just plain normal. Well to those that do that, YOU ARE ASSHOLES!!!

Don’t be an asshole, if you’re sick stay home. Don’t go wondering around the grocery store, don’t go to church, don’t cough on people, don’t touch anything. In short, don’t be an asshole.

Thanks

World in Chaos

I have been watching the news for a very long time and I am very up-to-date on the affairs of the world. I am very sad to see the state of some of these countries.

I almost as an American cannot fathom what is going on with some of these international civil wars. Seeing some of the autocities that are going on overseas its hard to complain about anything going on here.

Things people complain about here are things such as,

  • The president not being an American -get over it already, I mean, we survived 8 years with Bush you will survive the last of Obama’s term.
  • Gun Rights – This is something that I am passionate about, I don’t think that the government is going to take away our guns or our gun rights so its time for people to move on. If you don’t like having to have a background check to buy a gun, then you probably don’t need one. I love and appreciate having our 2nd ammendment rights. We aren’t going to lose them.
  • Military Funding – yes we need to fund our military, simple as that. Lose the military, lose our rights. Lets not have to live thru the movie of Red Dawn.
  • Obamacare – woah, hey now, lets leave the millions of Americans uninsured because it makes some of the Tea-Party mad. Get over yourselves. Now I do think that there are things to be tweaked and fixed but fundamentally its a good idea.
  • Gay Marriage – Seriously? Why are we fighting about this? It is so stupid. Who CARES!!!! If you think that two people getting married is going to negatively affect you to the point that you think it should be banned? Maybe you are the problem, not them.

Here are things that the people across the world are complaining about and fighting for

  • Food
  • Access to the internet and information
  • Freedom of speech
  • Freedom to life
  • The ability to ELECT their government
  • Housing
  • Jobs that pay more than $5-10 a week

They are fighting for things that we take for granted. I know that our country isn’t perfect but there seems to be a serious disconnect between what we have and take for granted vrs what we really need and fundamentally deserve as human beings.

10 Truths I have learned about Family and Kids

I was driving home from picking up my daughter yesterday and I was thinking about my next blog post. I was sitting waiting for the light to turn green listening to a friend be upset about her life. While listening I realized that there are 10 truths that I have learned in my life that always seem to be true.

1) Kids will be kids.

You can get mad at them for being kids but that only punishes you. Kids yell, make messes, don’t listen and can just be straight-up obtuse. ¬†Yelling at your kids only makes you feel bad later. Try talking to your kids on their level. Not all kids respond to just talking, however for the most part they are just trying to get your attention for something. Positive or negative they will get the attention that they need. You however get to decide how you are going to deal with it.

2) Family First

Friends are awesome, and I don’t know where I would be in this life without them. That being said I have to say that my husband and kids come first. I know that it has been hard for some of my friends to accept because I am not able to go and do the things that I used to. Doesn’t mean that I don’t love and care about them like I used to. People grow up, or they are supposed to anyway.

3) Kids are expensive!!

Kids are so darned expensive. New clothes, because they hit a growth spurt, after school activities, and everything else that they need on a daily basis. My kids are currently doing Karate (doing very well at it, enjoying it, and I love every min of it as do they) I am a mother to an Orange Belt as well as a brand new littlest White Belt. ¬†Alex’s first Tournament is in Feb. STOKED!! Okay I digressed, but they are awesome and expensive little critters.

4) Everyone needs something.

Everyone needs something that makes them happy in their lives. Even if it seems trivial, everyone needs something that makes them feel complete and like an individual. For me, its working out, and getting to watch General Hospital while the kids are at school. (I know its small and seems stupid probably, but it’s great for me) My husband has his daily trips to 7/11 (Since he works from home, its the only time he gets out of the house)

5) Make time for your partner/spouse

You don’t have spend every waking moment together, but you should try to make some time for eachother. Even if it is just watching a show or movie together at least 3 times a week cuddling on the couch. I think that having a date night is important for parents and couples as well but lets face it. Not everyone can get out once a week or even once a month. (I know that we can’t) There are things that we can do to keep things going at home. Spending some quiet time together after the kids go to bed, cuddling, sex of course. However, if you want it to work, take time to at least say I love you.

6) People change after kids

So many people wonder why parents can’t just jump on a plane and go away like they used to. Others think their kidless friends are suddenly assholes and stop working on those relationships. Take the time to make a phone call, write an email, even poke them on facebook if needed. Just let them know that you are still there and want to be friends. There is always an adjustment period, after kids, after a break-up, after getting married, just about everything requires an adjustment of some sort. Be Patient with your family and friends. No one knows what you are going thru unless you tell them.

7) Be informed

I can’t stress how important being informed is. Be informed about how your kids are doing in school, how your spouse is doing at work, what is going on in the lives of your loved ones. I wish people would be more informed about things in general, but if you can’t manage to be caught up on world affairs then at the very least know what’s going on in your own home. So many things can be prevented if you just know what is going on with the people that you love.

8) Family doesn’t have to be blood

I have learned the hard way that sometimes your family won’t be blood related to you, blood does not create some bond that cannot be broken. Trust does. If you have people in your life that are toxic get rid of them in your life. You don’t need that. No one does, its not easy, feelings will get hurt. But wouldn’t you rather live a happy and fulfilled life with out that one person that always makes you feel so toxic that you could throw up?

9) Let it go……

You have to let go of your ego. Not everyone is perfect. I know that I am not. I know that I will never be perfect, but I can be a better version of me than I was yesterday. I recognize that people say and do dumb things when they are angry, frustrated, scared, or just plain upset with life. Most of the time its not about you or even what you’re actually talking about. There is something else. So when someone says something insensitive to you and you’re upset. Let some of that go. Anger and resentment, doesn’t hurt the other person. It only hurts you. Sometimes you can’t change their attitude, or their point of view but you can change how you react to it.

10) Pick your battles

If it is something that you are really passionate about then, feel free to argue your point to your hearts content, but if in the grand scheme it is something that isn’t that big of a deal, then I would say just let it go for now. Make sure that when you are calm and can rationally talk about what hurt your feelings or made you so upset then do it then. Just remember, “Never go to bed mad” you never know if tomorrow will come.